August 13, 2016 Voicemail of Threats to Cut off Credit Card in Order to Control Just Before Boarding Airline for My Trip to Texas for Birth of Grandson

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At first blush, the voicemail is seemingly justifiable. A husband upset that his wife is spending money on a hotel just miles away from the marital home. The poor guy is taking care of the dog, cat and the fish. He also seems to just want to see his wife before she leaves out of state. Right? No way.

I had left the house due to a violent episode. I made him think I was just needing to visit my daughter in Santa Rosa (at the time.) I had actually checked into a nearby hotel in Larkspur. I went home each day while he was at work and kept up the home, checked on his children, made dinner, set the table and left before he returned home. I was keeping the peace.

After checking the credit card, he realized I was at a hotel. He was aware I was leaving to Texas on a planned trip. He had wanted me to see him before I left. He was angry when he realized I was really trying to get away from him.

He threatened to cut off the finances to keep me stressed out on my trip.

He did settle down, and ultimately not only did not cut off the credit card, but attempted to to make up for everything by transferring an additional amount of cash into my checking account for extra needs for the Texas trip. Of course, upon my return back to CA he then accuses me of taking money from our community property that I simply did not take. (See AUDIO-RECORDINGS on sidebar.)

I was the primary caretaker of the family dog, cat and fish. His voicemail was about power and control.

Audio Recording September 1, 2016 I Was Preparing to Pack, and to Legally Separate

After this audio-recording was taken, he left for work. I watched him drive off. Approximately 20 minutes later, I heard what sounded like a break in at the front door. It was actually John “sneaking” back into our home. I ended up turning the audio-recorder back on.

(I posted that audio-recording to the right of this site. )

On this date, after all of this bizarre behavior, he text me instructing me to pick up HIS biological children at school. He also wanted me to cook dinner. I did pick the kids up, but went back to the hotel. I refused to go back to the house.

On September 7, 2016, I learned that John filed a bogus DV-TRO against me. Turns out he filed it THE VERY DAY OF THIS RECORDING. I soon learned where he was going with the “50,000” he falsely accused me of.  I will update this post to further explain.

Audio-recording of August 28, 2016 John Framing Me by Trying to Make Neighbors Think I was Attacking Him ( He then fled before Police came to the residence) I Had no Idea at the Time This Was a Set Up!

His Exhibit 13              Rework Of Husband’s Exhibit 13       CLICK HERE

In a previous post I shared a Cryptic Email I received from Dr. Velyvis after he cut off community funds on August 27, 2016. He basically declared war on me. He still is to date.

So on this day I was set up.  He was forcing me back home. Upon my return, I noticed the water for the dog outside was green and about empty. There was mold over the kitchen island bread bowl. The house was filthy. There was a Gerber package made out to Dr. Velyvis, and I noticed a hand-written note concerning taking our dog on a trip. I knew that he wanted to put the dog down so this concerned me.

In the audio recording,  he repeatedly accuses me of theft of 50,000 from his business checking account. I had no idea what he was referring to. He had a Sole Proprietorship for his medical business.  He called the account our family account but only his name was allowed on anything.  There was NO 50,000 taken. This was all a set up.

Just days later, after I refused to get back together with him, he filed a bogus DV-TRO against me with Rambo attorney Trevor G. Jackson.  Sure enough, he presented an EXHIBIT in family court (EXHIBIT 13) to allege that I had misappropriated funds. I have REWORKED HIS EXIBIT, (see attachment).

He basically added up all of the expenses that we had incurred for  medical bills, health coverage, my daughter’s college, and his 3 children’s private school , and a host of family expenses over the span of about 6 months and called it fraud/theft. My attorney, Arvin Lugay was able to prove up that his numbers and allegations just didn’t add up. To the contrary, I was the frugal one in the marriage. He controlled all of the finances.

Lastly, the shocking thing is that he misrepresented facts to the family court in his DV-TRO application concerning the Police being called out to our home this day. He stated that I CAUSED THE POLICE TO BE CALLED! That WE were having a loud argument or something to that effect. None of my audio-recordings were allowed into family court, which would have proved that he perjured himself.

 

 

Audio-recording of August 27, 2016 Upon My Return from Hotel

He was angry because he believed I abandoned the “family.” I had just returned the evening before from my planned trip to Texas. (Please see audio-recording on rightside of my post.)

He yells at me. He is angry about CPS coming out to the residence the last week of July 2016. He is under investigation at this point. That is what he refers to when stating I am mocking him and lying.

When he yells, “Leave me the F – -K alone,” he pushed me at the same time. Not sure if anyone can sense that by the audio-recording.

I will be updating this post over the next few days to explain further.

WHY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE? — latoriaa

In my previous post, we saw that domestic violence is not accidental. It doesn’t happen due to anger because if it does, everybody would be violent. Why? Everybody gets angry. However, domestic violence is intentional. It happens due to the belief systems of the abuser. They believe they are entitled and have the rights to […]

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when a woman decides to forget (For all women battling domestic violence) — The Lonely Author

My long time followers know I am a crusader against domestic abuse. A precious friend finds herself trapped in a relationship of physical/mental abuse. Although her husband will never read my poem, this is for him and all the other losers. when a woman decides to forget a white table cloth stained by unspoken words […]

via when a woman decides to forget (For all women battling domestic violence) — The Lonely Author

My Batterer’s Attorney, Trevor Jackson, Sent Me an Email This Evening Stating in Part that His Client Does Not Pose a Danger to Me.

Wow….Good to know? This is the same attorney who has falsified documents and misrepresented facts to family court. This is So I am suppose to feel safer now on his word. Hmmm…

It is 1:30 a.m. Letting y’all in on my internal thought process…

This is raw writing.  I had a great day. Busy. A family celebration. So why the post?  Reality of post traumatic stress.

 

I have nightmares almost nightly.

It usually involves Dr. John Velyvis, My now Ex husband. It is simply flashbacks.

However, I also experience nightmares of seemingly current involving him as well.

Just posting the day and life of aftermath. Goodnight.

 

 

I Am Tired but Happy…

I am tired but happy, and about to go to sleep but wanted to post. I decided long ago what is the most important love in my life. My grandson! I had the priveledge of creating his three year Birthday Celebration Cake! This is an example of what I mean when I post, “Peace in the Midst of Life’s Storms. ”

Regardless, I feel I must also press on in the areas of injustice. I have to balance out my family with my cause. Thank you for your patience.